Everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way.– Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
New Year’s resolutions are a funny thing. We start each year armed with a set of arbitrary goals and good intentions. A month later, we get so caught up in day-to-day living that these ‘resolutions’ fall by the wayside. They become mere ‘failures’. Side note: I hate the word failure.
I feel like new years resolutions are the goal-setting equivalent to Valentine’s Day; meaningless but something we all do because someone, somewhere said we had to.
Over the past few years I’ve become a bit of a fangirl of Danielle LaPorte and her book The Desire Map. Instead of setting arbitrary goals, she encourages you to look at your true desires, how you want to feel and encourages you to set ‘goals with soul’. Everything you do – from work, to life, to love, should be moving you in the general direction of feeling a certain way. Her boo, part theory, part workbook, forces you to look deep into your souls yearnings and promotes living a life lit on fire; full of passion and soul.
“Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating these feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.– Danielle LaPorte , The Desire Map
This year, I have four feelings or themes that are blazing the path for how I want to feel and getting me where I want to go. I’ve made them my own and I hold them close to my heart. They are my roadmap, my values, what lights me up and guides what I want to get out of each and every day.
If you’ve read any of my previous posts, you can pick up on the serious case of wanderlust I’m suffering from. I’m curious and itching to explore this big, beautiful earth.
This year I want to focus my life towards more of these experiences. I want adventure, both near and far. I want to get lost in it and I want to use adventure to find clarity. It’s inspiring and easy and lights up my soul.
Small, deliberate actions inspired by your true desires create a life you love.– Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
It is in my nature to be creative. I’ve always been crafty and a bit of an out-of-the-box thinker. My career is routed in a creative field and being inspired is what drives my free time. I love rolling my sleeves up, getting my hands dirty (figuratively and literally) and creating things. This light in me has been dim for some time, for the passed 5-6 years I haven’t felt very inspired.
When I started writing this blog last summer, my creative side started firing again. My curiosity was sparked and I started feeling inspired. I want to enhance that feeling, to continue learning and doing.
Be Curious. Come to Life.– Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
To be soulfully nourished looks beyond weight loss goals and fitness challenges. This is a feeling that encompasses all forms of strength and wellness.
I watched a movie over the Christmas holidays that summarized this goal nicely for me. In the movie ‘Chasing Mavericks’, based on the life of young surfer Jay Moriarity, his mentor and surf legend Frosty Hessen talks about the four pillars for a solid human foundation; mental, physical, spiritual and emotional.
I want to feel nourished in a way that Danielle describes as ‘Soul-affirming not Soul-sucking’. I want to be the healthiest me that I can, for as long as I can. I want to enrich these four pillars to live a fuller life. I want to be whole, wholehearted.
This is by far the toughest, yet most important.
Limitless love, represents kindness, tenderness and self-love. I tend to be my own worst critics and biggest contender. In the big, tough world out there, its easy to lose sight of how important self-love is. I want to learn to be gentler to myself, to be my own advocate to accept the skin I’m in.
I want to open my heart to the love of the world and show that same love in return.
“When you’re clear on how you want to feel, you can be open to what life wants to give you. And life usually has something even better in store for you than what you imagined.”– Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map
This is my road map, my guiding principles, my souls desires for 2016.